The Secret To Having a Great Day!

August 30, 2018

The Secret To Having A Great Day Morning Routine

*Original post on Southbay Mommies and Daddies Website

Do you ever feel like there is just no time? No time to get any one thing done. No time for yourself. No time for your friends. No time for your passion project.

I read once that the prolific author Nora Roberts started writing for the first time during a snowstorm while she was a SAHM and her kids were housebound. Writing became her outlet. I love that story. But now that I’m a SAHM, I seriously do not get how she did it! How, Nora, how did you manage to write your novels with your crazy kids running around needing snacks and drinks and snacks and games and snacks and help and snacks!? And also with a household to run. And a husband to talk to. And friends to text a waving hand emoji to every now and then because there is just NO time for a longer conversation?

It really feels like there’s no time during the summer months when your beautiful, well behaved children are out of school. Those once too brief few hours while the kiddos were gone now seem like glorious eons of freedom that you would gladly give your right arm for. (Ok, maybe your right leg because your right arm is too busy making snacks.)

Well enough! We must take back control. And while I concede that during this time in our lives there are so many things that are out of our control (hello early wake ups, sick kiddos, and cranky husbands), I will fight for the few things we can control. And that starts with creating your Morning Routine.

By religiously sticking to my morning routine, I set myself up to have a great day where I know I’ve accomplished at least one thing that is just for me.

A morning routine gives you structure and a feeling of control over an already chaotic day. Start creating your routine now, during these last few weeks of summer, so that when fall comes and school blessedly starts again, you’ll be ready to stick with it. You’ll be committed to it. You’ll realize how important it is for your sanity, for your creativity, and for your ability to face the day with a smile and a positive attitude. 

Are you ready for your new morning routine!? Here we go, mama…

Step 1: Get up 30 – 60 Minutes Before Your Kiddos.
I know, I know. Yeah. Right. But seriously…just try it! We are almost always too tired after the kids go to bed to do anything that is just for us at night. And TV is a way too attractive offer – curse you, Big Brother! Morning is the most productive time of day to take time for you.

Step 2: Hydrate.
Drink a glass of water before you do anything else. Keep it on your nightstand, and suck it down before you even get out of bed. Cleanse yourself from the first moment of the day. Every mentor I’ve had says to drink half your body weight in ounces of water, and these people are super successful. We should listen to them 🙂 Water is the elixir of life, and it makes you feel so refreshed right as you wake up.

Step 3: Read your Daily Soul Session.
The Daily Soul Sessions For Every Mama book is a daily inspirational that only takes 3 minutes to read each morning. Read it every day to get your thoughts moving in the direction you want them to continue – positive, happy, present, and mindful. Mindfulness is a muscle. We have to work on it consistently to really see changes in our lives. If you’re expecting a baby, read The Daily Soul Sessions For The Pregnant Mama!

Step 4: “You” Time.
Now spend the rest of your blessed quiet time doing something just for you. Journal, meditate, sit on your porch with a cup of coffee, goal-set, read, stretch. Do whatever it is that fuels your inner pilot light and clears out the cobwebs in your brain. This makes room for creativity, positivity, and endless possibility. But absolutely no laundry, dishes, or cleaning allowed, lady. This about you and your inner sense of happiness. This is about feeling like you have accomplished something that is only for you – not for mom, not for wife, not for friend, not for daughter. For YOU. 

The Daily Soul Sessions tribe consists of 3 sisters – Kate, Kacey, and Kara Coppola. Our mission is to offer a consistent – and short! – daily practice for moms to come back to themselves and find creativity and inspiration through the grind of motherhood. We do this through our books (The Daily Soul Sessions For Every Mama and The Daily Soul Sessions For The Pregnant Mama), our 30 Day Journaling Challenge for Moms, and our social media tribe!  Let’s THRIVE, not just survive, mama…come join us! Learn more here: www.thedailysoulsessions.com

Southbay Mommies and Daddies: How To Turn Your Day Around In 5 Minutes Or Less!

July 25, 2018

 

Turn Your Day Around In 5 Minutes

(This article is a repost from Southbay Mommies and Daddies website! We are now contributors to their website – head on over to check it out! If you’re local to the Southbay, they have a lot of great info on activities, local events, and more!)

You know that feeling. That sinking, ball of lead in the pit of your stomach, suddenly so exhausted feeling that you can hardly keep your eyes open. Maybe it was some bad news. Or maybe another mom at school drop-off made you feel not good enough. Maybe you’ve been refereeing your kids since 6 am and you have just HAD it. Maybe a simple “what do you want for dinner” conversation with the hubby turned into a code red, “do you ever listen to me?” fight.

Ugh. Isn’t it amazing how a day can turn bad quicker than your toddler can decide they suddenly hate pizza (whaaaaat? Who hates pizza?! My kid. That’s who.)

And that just ain’t right.

We work too hard and have too many positive intentions to let a day go to waste with negativity or depression or simple boredom. The truth is, we feel negative emotions much stronger than we feel positive emotions, so we have to fight back, sisters! We can’t let the sad win! We have to prepare for these moments like Wonder Woman prepares to take down the god Ares. With a killer set of over the knee boots and some hair that makes Rapunzel jealous, obvi. What we need is an arsenal of positivity at our fingertips.

We’ve got your back, mama. Here are 7 ways to turn your day around in 5 minutes or less.

1.) Keep an uplifting book on your kitchen counter. Whenever you feel the heaviness creep in, stop whatever you are doing. Pick up that book and read a few pages. Let the words give you a swift mental kick in the booty, and feel it change your thought process immediately. The inspiring words of self-love, gratitude, and determination will fill you up again. Need some book inspiration? Our latest favorites are on our highlighted Insta Story entitled “Books”.

2.) Create a positive vibes only Pinterest Board and title it “Inspiration”. Collect images with all the things that inspire you to be the best woman you can be. Where do you want to travel? Find images of that. What quotes make you feel strong and empowered? Find pictures of that. Don’t pin anything that leaves you feeling wanting, only allow those images that make you feel strong, sexy, determined, and happy. Then scroll through that board when you need a sweet ‘lil cheerleader on your shoulder. Check out our “Inspiration” board to get started.

3.) Download inspiring songs that never fail to make you dance or make you smile.Make sure they are on your phone, and turn one on whenever you need a pick me up. Start with “Kinder” by Copper Wimin. Or simply turn on a Pandora or Spotify station that will keep an ongoing stream of inspiring music playing. No one ever had a bad day belting out the entire Wicked soundtrack from beginning to end. Trust me on this one.

4.) Make an “Affirmation” page in the notes on your phone. Write down your personal mission statement as a woman, your reasons WHY you want the life you want, and some simple positive phrases that remind you to choose joy. Then when you’re feeling blue, read through these affirmations and pick one that resonates with you at the moment. Repeat it to yourself over and over until you begin to feel lighter.

5.) Breathe! Set your timer for 3 minutes and close your eyes. Start to deepen your breath. On the inhale, think the sound “sat” (rhymes with not). On the exhale, think the sound “nam” (rhymes with mom – fitting!). Sat nam means “truth” or “truth is my identity.” Keep saying this phrase, coinciding with your inhale and exhale until your timer goes off.

6.) Drop down and do a few vinyasas. This exercise is even better if you are in the middle of Target and your child is screaming for yet another Paw Patrol Pup. The looks alone from other people as you are in Down Dog will be satisfying enough.

7.) Do not, I repeat, do NOT get on any social media until the crisis has passed. I’m serious. Just say no to the Insta and the FB and the Snapchat and the Twitter in your life. When you are struggling with something, it is not the time to go into other people’s worlds of photo shopped perfection. This is a time to work on you. Alone. It is the time to focus on your goals, your gifts, and your authenticity. To remember why you love yourself and your life. To heal whatever is aching and just take a break from all the noise and distraction around you.

Ah…feels better already, am I right? You CAN do this. You have the ability to turn a heck no day into a heck yes one. But our thoughts have power. And like attracts like. So if you don’t prepare for the bad moments, you’ll never defeat them. And come on, if we pack diaper bags the size of Texas in preparation for a possible armageddon, why not pack some tools for our own personal mini armageddons as well?

“ ‘There are always flowers for those that want to see them.’
~Henri Matisse, Artist

Attitude will make or break our daily journey through motherhood. How do we keep the peaceful, positive, and powerful tone we set for ourselves this morning last all day long? It’s simple. We choose. We decide to see the flowers. And we see them. Happy people attract happiness. Negative people attract sadness. Moody people attract chaos. Distracted people attract disrespect. What do you choose to attract today?”
-Excerpt from The Daily Soul Sessions For Every Mama book

The Daily Soul Sessions tribe consists of sisters Kate, Kacey, and Kara Coppola. Their mission is to offer a consistent – and short! – daily practice for moms to come back to themselves and find creativity and inspiration through the grind of motherhood. We do this through our books (The Daily Soul Sessions For Every Mama and The Daily Soul Sessions For The Pregnant Mama), our 30 Day Journaling Challenge for Moms, and our social media tribe! 

Favorite Books I’m Currently Reading…

March 6, 2018

 

What are my favorite books I’m reading right now? Besides the book I wrote!? Ha! Jk, jk. I’m a GIANT book nerd and proud of it. Where my fellow book nerds at?

Ok, onto the good stuff. First up is my soulful book of the month:

A Book For Your Soul:

I just finished Gabrielle Bernstein’s newest – Judgment Detox. It’s a fast read but full of awesome advice and tips on how to get rid of all the judgment in your life. Judgment basically comes down to negativity; any bad or negative thought you have toward yourself or someone else is only hurting you. Learning how to forgive yourself for these thoughts, how to move past them quickly, and how to change the thought to something better is key to living your happiest, highest vibration life!

I try to read a couple of pages of my soulful or self-help book every day during my morning routine. It honestly is a game changer—in fact, I can tell that days don’t start as positively and go as smoothly if I haven’t take “me” time!

A Book For Whimsy:

Kacey has been re-reading Diana Gabaldon’s epic Outlander saga! Yes, the WHOLE THING. If you haven’t read these books yet…well, I don’t know what you’re waiting for. They are so wonderful, so adventurous, and they have such awesome characters. The TV series on STARZ ain’t so bad either (hello, Sam Heughan!!!!).

A Book For Your Brain

I’m a self-professed fanatic of the musical Hamilton. It’s one of the best shows I’ve ever seen—from the stage movement, to choreography, to the blend of all genres of music! SO great. My in-laws gave me this book, Hamilton: The Revolution, over Christmas and I devoured it! It has behind the scenes looks at how the entire show was made, from start to finish. PLUS it has Lin Manuels own commentary alongside lyrics to each song…fascinating!

A Book For Your Work

Carrie Green’s book She Means Business is extremely inspiring. It helps you find the courage to actually start that business or push on through the dark times. It also has a ton of tips, tricks, advice, and practical applications for any business, creative or not. LOVE it.

Happy reading my lovely!

xo,
Kate